My father  was   very unusual man.

when  I  was  23    I  was walking  with  him   and  man  met us  and  start talking to my  dad  and  I felt he  was very

disrespetful  to  my  dad.

SO I    confronted  him  and  said  Sir     You  do not have  the manner  how  to talk  to may dad.

My Dad intervened  and  said   Please  forgive  and  pray  for my  boy  he just just do not  know   what

a  wonderful man you  are.

I  was  furious   but kept my mouth  shut.

After ward  I  confronted my  dad  and  said  people   like  you  cause  problem  for others,  and  people  like than man  will

keep  disrespeting  other people  and  this  is all  your faulkt.

My father smiled   and  said  do  you thoink  you can teach him  the menner.

I said  no    but  he  should be told.

Then  he posed  another  question  why  he disrespected me?

He  is a mean person  I  replied

He  said   I beg   to  disagree    with  you . We  are not  judges. Every  thing happen  for  a  reason

How  do  we  know the  reason,  Reflect  and  I  know  that   God  send  him  to  remind  me that  I  have  to earn respect   .

He  was  a post  man  or  messenger  of  God  to remind me  to get  my  get act together  and  I  am  so thankful  God  has

granted me  a son like  you  who love me so much.

I  could  not  understand  his logic    and  felt  it is hopeless   to talk to him  any further.

To my surprise  couple weeks  later  same  man      brought   a   big basket   of  fruit  and  said  to me  This  is  for  your father  not  for  you.

I  did  not  understood then  but  I understand now  what my father  was trying  to teach me.

RESPECT  IS EARNED     NOT DEMANDED

Brain  is  like  a  computer    work   according  to learned  behavior,

work reasoning (  that  can be reasonable  or unreasonable)   and  very  well     get  contaminated    with   viruses  and  crash before  its  time.

LIFE  STORY  OF  A SMOKER

I  loved  puffing.

I start huffing.

I  continue   to puff  and  huff.

My last  advise  to  humanity, Please  donot  start puffing,  if  you  are  a puffer Please  stop.

Sincerely  Yours

Ex smoker

Graveyard St  Grave  #420    COPD County

DeadCity ,   DC   12345

1-800-smo-ker  ext loser

WWW.Smokerdieyoung.com

Yesterday  I  saw   a  movie  ZOOTOPIA     with  my  son   and  wife.

This  remind  me  of   the  story  I  told  my  daughter  who also wanted  to  hear a  story,

and  want  me to make  a story no one has  ever heard  and  the main character have  to be a female.

So I  told  her   the story  of Deer  King

Long  time  ago  there  was  a  middle  age female   Deer  single   Mom   with  3  kids   and  her  was  eaten up

by  the Lion King.

She reflected   and  realize  that it  is  time  for   action.

She  declared  that  she  in  the  king of  jungle  and    challenged  daval   with Long King.

On  appointed  time  every one  was  surprised  how  well  Deer  was  prepared.

Lion keep  attacking   but  Deer  was  too fast  for  him.

He  was huffing , puffing  and  sweating.

Deer  ran  in the jungle  and  jumped  over a  big    ditche  she  had  made  to trap  the  Lion.

Lion  fall  into  the ditche   and  become the captive  of   Deer.

Deer  king    made the  consitition    of  the  jungle.

No  animal  was  allowed  to kill  or  hurt anyone  in any form of  shape

The    criminal   put in the ditche   with  hungry  Lion inside.

The  was  peace    in the  Jug le .

My  daughter  declaed  she  will  be  a king  one  day.

Dear  Dr  Shaikh    Your  healing   tip   about  volunteer,  victim  and   abuser   hit   me.

That  was   on my  mind  all  day

and  I  had   a dream  that night  that  answered all  my  questions.

I  realized  I  was  not  the  victim  but  was  a  volunteer   and  self  abuser  all  along  and  I  am  still  doing  it  in  different  way.

I  will  allow  people  to  walk  all over me.

I  know  what  I  have  to  do  to  transform  myself   from  volunteer  /  self  abuser   and   to    become  truly self aware.

Very  weird  dream.

In my  dream   my   brother  was asking me  to have  sex  with him and  I was  refusing .

He  was insisting  nicely  and  I agreed,    and  I  woke  up.

That  explained  my behavior, I  will  do anything  to please  others.  and  hoping   that they  will be  nice to me in return .

I have  fear   and I  will  do anything  to have peace  and  felt  good about  myself.

Now  I know  I have  to  change.

Thank you  very  much  for  your healing  tip

Jane  Smith. Self  abuser  / Volenteer

What  is  in  common  between  a   good  cook    and  good  doctor?

HEALTHY WAIST LINE

A good  cook’s   delicious  food  for other  so  he  or  she  can afford  healthy food  for himself  or  herself and live long healthy life

A good  Doctor   take care of  his  or   her  health  first,  so  he  or  she  can provide  healthcare  to others  and practice  his own advise and

live happy  healthy full life.

It  is hard  to tell cook’s  waist line  because  he or  she  is  in the kitchen most of  the time, and    white  coat  cover’s doctor’s waist line.

PS:   When was  the  last  time

you have   measured   your waist line?

My Patients     are  my  inspiration

Couple  day  ago  I saw   a  31    year    old   lady  single  mom  3  kids   diagnosed   with   breast

cancer   both  breasts  resected  on  chemotherapy  .

I felt sorry  for  her  and  asked  her how  she  feel.

She said  I   wake  up   feel   sick  but  I  put  a smiley   face    and  get  to work.

Every  day    is  like  a  hell  not  sure  I  will make  it  but  end  of the day   receive  my  heavenly feeling,  I never felt  before.

I  do  want  my kids  to  remember  as a  role model.

Do  you miss    when  you   was  healthy and   enjoying  life?   I  asked

She  replied  Before  I  always    has  complains  , never  has this feeling.

Dr Shaikh    If  some  one  give  you  million  dollars   will that make  you happy?

Sure I  replied.

How  if  you  earn million  dollars.  She asked

Of course  I  will  be happier  if  I earn  it.

Now  I    has   a  pay check  I earned  and to my  surprise     I  has  a  meaningful   life.

Moral  of  the  story:     Suffering     for   a  unaware  person   is  punishment.

To  some  suffering  bring  awareness   and    for them    suffering   become  a  gift.

Self  aware  people  welcome  suffering  as  a  gift   they   know  the  reward  of  suffering.

LETTER TO THE AUTHOR :

I remember you once showed me a letter that one of your patients had written to you, and how proud you felt to receive it. Everyone wants recognition, to be appreciated for their efforts, and feel what they do really counts.

I for one, admire you so much. Every time I visit your office, you always have very positive words of wisdom to share with me, and of course, also a great sense of humor.

Just being a physician, in a basic way, is not your. You desire much more for people. You want others to live a happier life and feel inner peace in the stressful times we face. That comes from a spiritual love deep inside your heart. I’ve never had a doctor before that is so willing to look inside someone, see the need there, then try to help them feel better about themselves and better about their life.

Most doctors focus only on the physical condition. Most are caught up in time, rushed and even overwhelmed by meeting a schedule. But not you; you make your own rules of life. How rare that is.

The last time I came in for a check-up, I was concerned about the safety of my six year old grand daughter. You and I discussed prayer and faith. You asked me how much time I devoted to prayer, which isn’t the problem. Then you enlightened me to strengthen my faith by letting go and believing the Lord will watch over her. I was still allowing myself to “worry” instead of allowing Him to take on my pleading. You are so right. I spoke to my oldest son about you . He is a devout Christian and told me, “your doctor is right Mom.” He said, “I wish I could see Jalyn every day and know she is alright, but I can’t; I have to believe that God sees and knows and will take care of her for me.”

So, thanks to you, I feel much better about it. I also know that the Holy Spirit intercedes for me. Before the end comes, there will be so much evil and suffering in the whole world. It breaks my heart to know the pain and fear others less fortunate will experience. Like you said though, I must believe and have faith He will abide.

Thank you so much, and I pray God will bless you and yours.

Trail of healing 101 begins       For Jan 13th 2016

A LETTER FROM THE SAME PATIENT – SIX MONTHS LATER

Dr Shaikh,

I’m not really sure how begin…I’m not very good at writing, so I guess I will just start fom the beginning and let it all out.

I was angry, hurt and at times I guess I felt I needed to get even…as a child my parents never really wanted me, so my father took off…got re-married and took care of his step kids…if we run into one nother we say hi.  My mother would just drop me off wherever she could…my childhood was basically a lot of abuse mentally/physically and sexually.  Once I was old enought to stand up for myself she decided to kick me out and we didn’t speak for fourteen years…although, she had two girls with her second husband and always made sure she was there for them, and of course the husband hated me.  I’ve gone without food, holidays…pretty much been put through it.

Once I got married to my first husband, I was never complete…so after fifteen years instead of just leaving…what did I do…I had an affair as a way out.  that relationship was doomed from the get go!  But it led me to my now husband of six years, and we have been together for nine years.

Around seven years ago, my mother, aunt and two sisters tried to “reconnect” well, nothing changed…unless we were giving, doing or whatever…that’s when they wanted to bother (and they were never able to help us…including when I had surgeries), I can’t even count how much money they got out of us.  My mother even had us help her and the older daughter with her three kids move to this area in hopes that they could start over… since the younger daughter would beat on them and abuse them, so my husband and I did.  Well, what did she do… the same thing… but this time humiliated us around people we know and brought the youngest up here…who lives with the man she was having an affair with and is living with him, his brother, parents and the ex-girlfriend and her son.  After being cursed at, put down and used…we finally cut all ties.  Once can only take so much.

II know GOD, Jesus, the Blessed Mother, Holy Spirit, Saints and the angels…led me to my husband, who is my best friend, my rock, and the one I know…no matter what, will always be by my side.  And to you…without you having me do my “HOMEWORK” on my first visit…I know I would not have gotten myself back or the strength to realize…I MATTER!.  And most important…backk to the LORD!

When I first looked at the questions…honestly, I thought …oh, this is going to be easy, well, it wasn’t!  I really needed to dig deep and let things out that I didn’t want to…just not to have to deal with the pain.  But I’m glad I did!

I’M FINALLY AT PEACE;  I HAVE BE BACK AND ENJOYING LIFE THAT WE ARE SO BLESSED TO HAVE!

THANK YOU!!!

Trail of healing 101 begins       For Jan 12th 2016

SURVEY QUESTIONNAIRE FROM A PATIENT:

1. I enjoy:  I don’t know anymore

2. I am confused about:  What changes I want to make in my career

3. My favorite activity is:  Camping

4. My greatest wish is:  We could have children or could afford to adopt

5. What makes me special is:  Caring, trustworthy and giving

6. I am unhappy about:  My family not being motivated to take care of themselves

7. My father:  Nothing to tell – he left when I was Five years old

8. My mother:  Drives me crazy – she wants me to support her all the time

9. Some people:  Are so negative

10. Happiness:  Spending time with my husband – he is my best friend

11. One thing that I have lost is:  Myself

12. The best thing about my job (or School) is:  I’m left alone to do my job – It’s very relaxed, but I need a change -I’m tired of office work

13. At night:  I wish I didn’t have to hear all the nonsense from my family

14. When I am alone:  I think about how I can change things in my life to get it better.

15. I would like to forgive:  Me – for stupit things I’ve done as a young adult

16. I wish others would see me as:  A caring person with feelings

17. Many times I have tried:  To Move and save money

18. I have been sruprised about:  I can’t remember

19. The thoughts that are hard to let go are:  Not being able to have children

20. My best trait is:  I’m genuine

– One dream I have is to write an e-Book cookbook but can’t afford a computer